{"fatawa":{"id":10285,"title":"How should he tell her that he wants to marry her?","slug":"how-should-he-tell-her-that-he-wants-to-marry-her","order":"","question":"<p>I was recently informed of this site, ma'shallah. What is the correct  way to approach&nbsp;a sister whom you intend to marry ? I've known this  sister my entire life, in the same regard as my own blood sister and  recently it was brought to my attention that she would be a perfect  candidate for marriage. I believe she respects me, but I am unsure if  she can accept me as her spouse. How can I know ? And what is the  correct, halal way to approach ? I have nothing but the best intentions,  yet my entire life I always felt I would marry her, yet out of respect I  have never approached. My father and aunt (my mother has passed, allah  yarham ha) are very fond of her and encourage me to pursue her, since  they know her and her family extremly well.<\/p>","answer":"<div class=\"list-group-item-text ftwa-single-answer font-nrmal\"><span class=\"line_height\"> Praise be to Allaah.        &nbsp;\r\n<p>If a man feels that his heart is inclined towards a      particular woman, he should follow the way that is permitted in Islam, which      is marriage. If a person intends to marry a woman, he has to propose      marriage to her through her wali (guardian), who is her father if he is      alive, or one of her other close relatives.&nbsp; It is not permissible for a man      to propose marriage to a woman who is not his mahram through ways that are      not permissible according to sharee&rsquo;ah, such as getting to know her or      meeting her frequently or getting in touch with her often and speaking on      the phone; these are means through which Iblees causes people to sin and      which lead to regrettable consequences. It is not permissible for a person      to justify his relationship with a girl by saying that she is like his      sister and other silly excuses. You have to follow the proper channels as      prescribed in Islam to marry this woman. When you propose marriage, it is      o.k. if you try to win her over by giving her a gift through her wali. We      ask Allaah to give us and you strength and to keep us away from haraam      things. And Allaah is the Source of strength.&nbsp;<\/p>\r\n<p>See also question no.2572.<\/p>\r\n<\/span><\/div>\r\n<div style=\"padding: 3px; padding-right: 6px; text-align: right;\">Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid<\/div>","status":1,"created_at":"2015-03-16T20:51:59.000000Z","updated_at":"2015-03-16T20:51:59.000000Z","language_id":1,"fatawacate_id":39,"parent_id":10284,"author_id":"","books":[],"articles":[],"videos":[],"audios":[],"author_name":"","category_name":"\u0627\u0644\u062e\u0637\u0628\u0629","category_slug":"","get_date":"2015-03-16"},"translations":[],"fatawa_books":[],"fatawa_articles":[],"fatawa_videos":[],"fatawa_audios":[],"url":"http:\/\/islamland.com\/eng\/api\/fatawas\/10285"}