{"fatawa":{"id":12560,"title":"Her co-wife threatens her, is hostile towards her and does not greet her with salaam","slug":"her-co-wife-threatens-her-is-hostile-towards-her-and-does-not-greet-her-with-salaam","order":"","question":"<p>What to do when you are married to the same brother and the first wife  threatens you and curses at you and will only give salaams when around  other people to&nbsp; save face but doesn't speak when no one else is around.  Ive been married for 9years to him her longer.<\/p>","answer":"<div class=\"list-group-item-text ftwa-single-answer font-nrmal\"><span class=\"line_height\">\r\n<p>Praise be to Allaah.&nbsp;<\/p>\r\n<p>She has to bear it with patience as much as possible,            and not repay evil with evil. She should respond to her co-wife&rsquo;s provocations            by keeping silent and keeping calm. If she can write her a letter expressing            her views, this is good. Then after that she will not be responsible            for what she (her co-wife) does, because she will have done what she            is obliged to do. &nbsp;<\/p>\r\n<p><em>Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh&nbsp; <\/em><\/p>\r\n<p>Adhere to the words of Allaah (interpretation            of the meaning): &nbsp;<\/p>\r\n<p><em>&ldquo;and when            the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with mild            words of gentleness&rdquo; <\/em><em>[al-Furqaan            25:63] <\/em><\/p>\r\n<p><em>&nbsp;&ldquo;Repel            (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allaah orders the faithful            believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who            treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity,            (will become) as though he was a close friend&rdquo; <\/em><em>[Fussilat            41:34] <\/em>&nbsp;<\/p>\r\n<p>Know that there is no better way of dealing            with her than fearing Allaah concerning her when disobeys Allaah with            regard to you..<\/p>\r\n<p>&nbsp;And Allaah is the            Guide to the straight path.<\/p>\r\n<\/span><\/div>\r\n<div style=\"padding: 3px; padding-right: 6px; text-align: right;\">Islam Q&amp;A <br \/> Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid<\/div>","status":1,"created_at":"2015-04-22T20:52:01.000000Z","updated_at":"2015-04-22T20:52:01.000000Z","language_id":1,"fatawacate_id":45,"parent_id":12559,"author_id":"","books":[],"articles":[],"videos":[],"audios":[],"author_name":"","category_name":"\u062a\u0639\u062f\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0632\u0648\u062c\u0627\u062a \u0648\u0627\u0644\u0639\u062f\u0644 \u0628\u064a\u0646\u0647\u0646","category_slug":"","get_date":"2015-04-22"},"translations":[],"fatawa_books":[],"fatawa_articles":[],"fatawa_videos":[],"fatawa_audios":[],"url":"http:\/\/islamland.com\/eng\/api\/fatawas\/12560"}