I am a young woman in my 20s. My marriage contract was done a few months ago and we agreed to consummate the marriage after a year and a half. I feel very anxious and fed up because my husband is neglecting me and pays no attention to me, because he spends most or all of his time at work. I am very worried about this marriage, and especially since I am very young and am still living in my family's house, and I do not know what will happen when I move to his house. I feel very alone and am troubled by bad thoughts, especially since I was sought for marriage by many people, and I feel that I am wasting my life with this marriage. What do you advise me to do? What are my rights over my husband and what is the evidence from the Qur’aan and Sunnah concerning that?.<\/p>","answer":"
If your husband is religiously committed and of good character, then praise Allaah for the blessing of making this marriage possible, and stop feeling worried and anxious, although we feel that this worry is something to be expected in a woman of your age in your situation. Indeed many people feel a kind of anticlimax after becoming engaged or doing the marriage contract, but one should let one’s optimistic side prevail and think positively, so long as your family knew him before he proposed marriage, or has checked on him and done their utmost to find out about his situation, with regard to his religious commitment, character, trustworthiness and serious approach to life. <\/p>\r\n
The fact that the husband has work which takes up a lot of his time is not to be regarded as something odd in this day and age, because of the high cost of living and lack of sources of income. The wise husband who is keen to take care of his family will strike a balance between that and fulfilling his family’s rights, so he will give them as much of his love, care and attention as he can when he comes back to them, and he will make the most of his resting times to spread an atmosphere of love and compassion that will make them forget that he is far away from them. This is something which we hope you will find with your husband, if Allaah wills, after consummation of the marriage. <\/p>\r\n
The wife has rights over her husband, as he has rights over her. Her rights include: that he should provide her with sufficient accommodation, food and clothing, he should treat her kindly, he should pay attention to her religious commitment by helping her to worship Allaah, and he should keep her away from sin and protect her from her Fire. He has rights over her which are that she should obey him, treat him kindly, and protect him with regard to herself and her honour. <\/p>\r\n