{"fatawa":{"id":7827,"title":"The hadeeth, \u201cIf you criticize people they will criticize you\u201d","slug":"the-hadeeth-if-you-criticize-people-they-will-criticize-you","order":"","question":"Please tell us about the level of soundness of the hadeeth which is narrated from Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019 (may Allaah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), \u201cIf you criticize people they will criticize you, and if you leave them alone they will leave you alone\u201d and where we can find it. I was told that it is in Saheeh al-Bukhaari but I cannot find it.","answer":"Praise be to Allaah.\r\nThe hadeeth of Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019 mentioned here is not in Saheeh al-Bukhaari. \r\n\r\nThere are several versions of it, such as: \u201cIf you keep away from people they will keep away from you, and if you flee from them they will catch up with you, and if you leave them alone they will not leave you alone.\u201d He said: What should I do? He said: \u201cGive up your honour (i.e., do not retaliate if it is impuged), until the Day of your utmost need (the Day of Resurrection, when you can settle the score).\u201d This is different from the version mentioned in the question. \r\n\r\nThis was narrated by Ibn \u2018Asaakir in Taareekh Dimashq (47\/178, 179) via Faraj ibn Faddaalah from Luqmaan ibn \u2018Aamir from Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019. \r\n\r\nIts isnaad is da\u2019eef because Faraj ibn Faddaalah is da\u2019eef (weak) and the narration of Luqmaan ibn \u2018Aamir from Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019 is munqati\u2019 (interrupted). \r\n\r\nSee: Tahdheeb al-Tahdheeb (8\/456) and al-Taqreeb (2\/107). \r\n\r\nMoreover there was some confusion about the isnaad because the same words with the same isnaad were narrated from Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019, stopping with him, and it was narrated as being from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). \r\n\r\nIt was narrated by Ibn \u2018Asaakir in Tareekh Dimashq (47\/178). \r\n\r\nThen Ibn \u2018Asaakir narrated it (47\/179) via Anas ibn \u2018Iyaad from Yahya ibn Sa\u2019eed who said: Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019 said \u2026 a mawqoof report (i.e., it stops with Abu\u2019l-Darda\u2019 and does not go back to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)). \r\n\r\nAnd its isnaad is munqati\u2019 (interrupted). Ibn al-Madeeni said of Yahya ibn Sa\u2019eed al-Ansaari: I do not know whether he heard it from any Sahaabah other than Anas. \r\n\r\nAl-Tahdheeb by Ibn Asaakir (11\/223). \r\n\r\nIt was also narrated from the hadeeth of Abu Umaamah (may Allaah be pleased with him). \r\n\r\nAnd it was narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Mu\u2019jam al-Kabeer (8\/126) no. 7575 and by Abu \u2018Amr al-Daani in al-Sunan al-Waaridah fi\u2019l-Fitan (219) and by Ibn \u2018Asaakir in Tareekh Dimashq (24\/17). \r\n\r\nIts isnaad is da\u2019eef; it includes Baqiyah ibn al-Waleed who is mudallis, and Sadaqah ibn \u2018Abd-Allaah al-Sameen, who is da\u2019eef. \r\n\r\nSee: Majma\u2019 al-Zawaa\u2019id by al-Haythami (7\/285). \r\n\r\nIt was also narrated by al-Daani and Ibn \u2018Asaakir with the wording: \u201cIf you speak to them they will speak to you.\u201d Ibn al-Atheer said: i.e., if you say something to them they will say something to you. And in another narration it says; \u201cif you criticize them they will criticize you.\u201d  \r\n\r\nAl-Nihaayah (5\/92). \r\n\r\nBut this report was proven to be the words of Abu Muslim al-Khawlaani, who said: The people were like leaves of a tree with no thorn among them, but today they are thorns with no leaves. If you revile them they will revile you and if you criticize them they will criticize you, and if you leave them alone they will leave you alone.\u201d\r\n\r\n Narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah in al-Musannaf (7\/206); Ibn Abi \u2018Aasim in al-Zuhd (1\/367); Abu Nu\u2019aym in al-Hilyah (2\/123) and Ibn \u2018Asaakir in Tareekh Dimashq (27\/228).\r\n\r\nIslam Q&A","status":1,"created_at":"2014-10-28T20:51:56.000000Z","updated_at":"2014-10-28T20:51:56.000000Z","language_id":1,"fatawacate_id":32,"parent_id":7826,"author_id":"","books":[],"articles":[],"videos":[],"audios":[],"author_name":"","category_name":"\u0627\u0644\u0623\u062d\u0627\u062f\u064a\u062b \u0627\u0644\u0636\u0639\u064a\u0641\u0629","category_slug":"","get_date":"2014-10-28"},"translations":[],"fatawa_books":[],"fatawa_articles":[],"fatawa_videos":[],"fatawa_audios":[],"url":"http:\/\/islamland.com\/eng\/api\/fatawas\/7827"}